“To share or Not to
share”
TEE TEE
Disclaimer: I was on one, when I wrote this!
“I am not sharing any
type of dick” says my cousin who wishes to remain anonymous. She was
making a reference to dating a man who already has a baby mother. She believes that
if you date a man who already has a child he will continually sex his child’s
mother. Lately the term side chick, boyfriend number #2, and jump-off have
become extremely popular.
Have we become a
culture that doesn’t mind sharing significant others? Or are there not enough
men so every woman can have their own? Honestly speaking I believe every woman
shares a penis at one point in their life, whether they know it or not. It’s
not a new event that is worthy of even a tweet or a Facebook update. It is a reality
that men wander since they are hunters by nature. Women wander because we are
emotional creatures who live inside our feelings. Both sexes stray for
different reasons, yet expect fidelity. Why do you expect the unexpected?
Commitment, monogamy, and fidelity are forced upon us by society and media.
Is
it fair to put such restraints on relationships? Is it reasonable to demand a
man or women to commit just to you? What if they get exhausted of you? What if
they accidentally sex someone else; will that ruin the love you two
share? Why is cheating the number one reason people divorce, separate,
and cease unions? It’s because we believe the hype that if someone truly
loves you they won’t cheat on you. This is the hype that America sells us that
fuels the entertainment world. Newspaper headlines and media go frantic
over cheating spouses and breakups. It’s really fucking ridiculous that our
news is not new at all! Many people cheat on their partner, who they love just
because they love having sex with new people. It’s exciting and makes them feel
alive. Is it wrong? Does that mean they need to be single? Not necessarily if
they keep it real with their main partner and promise to practice safe
sex.
Cheating is over rated and is not as detrimental as everyone believes. Many
women are single because they can’t forgive a man who cheated on them. There
are thousands of single mothers and broken families because of infidelity. Many
boys are being raised without fathers because of pride and ignorance. I
am not advising you to stay with a man who uses and abuses you; but if a man
slips up and is willing to do the right thing, forgive him. Things do happen
and maybe there are deep issues that can be resolved. But do not give up on a
good man because he cheated. The dumbest reason to leave a man is because he
cheated especially if he is a good provider. The picking is pretty slim out
here and another woman will pick that man up and dust him off. Some women get
cheated on for ten years then find out about one situation and leave a good
father, and they have been getting cheated on for years. It’s funny but the old
saying what you don’t know won’t hurt you, is true. It might sound cruel but
sometimes you have to turn the other cheek and suck it up. Family comes first
and there are too many broken families over bullshit.
Back in the day,
many families stayed together whether or not there was infidelity. Women turned
the blind eye to their partner’s indiscretions. There were not as many single
moms and family use to mean something. Now women applaud themselves for being
single moms like it’s a new trend. It is not cool to raise children alone, as
much as you tell yourself it is, it is not the way it is supposed to be. It’s
unnatural for children to be raised without fathers and women cannot lead a
family as well as a good man. So the question still remains, to share or not to
share?
It all depends
on who you ask the question to, I believe that when you focus on having the
best relationship with your partner and truly being their friend, there will be
nothing left to share with an outsider. If there is anything left to share who
really cares! We as women have to learn to focus on the bigger picture. Dream
your dreams and keep it pushing. If love is real then you love a person even
when they don’t deserve it. If you love someone with everything you got then
that’s all that matters. We must play our positions. If you don’t know
your position just ask!
